Monday, September 11, 2006

The married Man's Score Board

(NOTE: a score of "0" means it was expected of him)

Simple Duties
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You go out to buy her spring-fresh extra-light panty-liners with wings: +5
But return with a News Magazine: -5
You check out a suspicious noise at night: 0
You check out a suspicious noise and it's nothing: 0
You check out a suspicious noise and it's something: +5
You pummel it with a six iron: +10
It's her father: -10

Social Engagements
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You stay by her side the entire party: 0
You stay by her side for awhile, then leave to chat with a buddy: -2
If buddy is a women : -4
She is a dancer: -6
She has implants: -8

Saturday Afternoons
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You visit her parents: +1
You visit her parents and actually make conversation: +3
You visit her parents and stare vacantly at the television: -3
And the television is off: -6
You spend the day watching college football in your underwear: -6
And you didn't even go to college: -10
And it's not really your underwear: -15

Her Birthday
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You take her out to dinner: 0
You give her a gift: 0
You give her a gift, and it's a small appliance: -10
You give her a gift, and it's not a small appliance: +1
You give her a gift, and it isn't chocolate: +2
You give her a gift that you'll be paying off for months: +30
You wait until the last minute and buy her a gift that day: -10
With her credit card: -30
And whatever you bought is two sizes too small: -40

Thoughtfulness
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You forgot to pick her up at the bus station: -25
And the pouring rain dissolves her leg cast: -50

A Night Out, Just the Two of You
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You go see a comic: +2
He's crude and sexist: -2
You laugh: -5
You laugh too much: -10
She's not laughing: -15
You laugh harder: -25

Driving
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You lose the directions on a trip: -4
You lose the directions and end up getting lost: -10
You end up getting lost in a bad part of town: -15
You get lost in a bad part of town and meet the locals up close & personal: -25
She finds out you lied about having a black belt: -60

Communication
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When she wants to talk about a problem, you listen,
displaying what looks like a concerned expression: 0
When she wants to talk, you listen, for over 30 minutes: +5
You listen for more than 30 minutes, without looking at the television or picking up a newspaper: +10
She realizes this is because you've fallen asleep: -10

Sunday, August 13, 2006

Marriage is all about learning How to do without SEX!

My colleague says:

I've been married 15 years and my wife and I have lived most of that as brother and sister.

There has been no sex AT ALL for the last four years.

Get a girlfriend or get used to it.

Marriage is all about learning how to do without sex.

Thursday, August 3, 2006

Why Men visit Brothels?

An article from Australia where prostitution is legal in licensed brothels is interesting exploring the type of men that go to brothels:

The Deakin University study found there were two types of brothel client. About 60 per cent visited prostitutes in a straightforward business-like way, but the rest wanted to have an emotional involvement with a sex worker.

It also found that the most common reason for visiting brothels was that sex was less complicated than with a partner. Nearly 80 per cent said they visited brothels due to a high sex drive, with the next most common response a desire for sexual variety.

About a third of the men said visiting prostitutes was the only way they could have sex. More than two thirds visited brothels at least once a month.

Undertaken by the university's Professor of Psychology, Ms Marita McCabe, and Mr. Luke Xantidis, the study surveyed clients of two legal brothels, compared with men who did not visit brothels.

Professor McCabe said there were few significant differences between men who visited brothels and those who did not. Most clients seemed ``remarkably normal'' and both groups were just as likely to have families.

She said it appeared more ``decent blokes'' rather than ``sleazy types'' were using brothels since they had been legalised. ``We found two groups, one was the socially inept, shy and withdrawn. The other group was the type of client who saw it as a business transaction. They were OK in their relationships with women, but saw it as a novelty.

``With those guys it's convenient. They don't have time for a genuine relationship and it's a business relationship, paying a woman for a sexual encounter with no complications at all.''

The socially inept went to prostitutes for relationships because they found it difficult to form them normally, she said. ``Men with difficulties in social interaction may escape into using prostitutes, rather than developing social skills. It can cost them a fortune, spending all their money to support an inadequacy within themselves.''

The survey found that by far the biggest trigger for visiting a brothel was that the men were ``feeling aroused''. Other less common reasons were loneliness and boredom.

The study concluded that it demonstrated ``that men visit sex workers not only for sexual activities that their partner does not provide, but also to fulfill certain psychological needs, such as the need for intimacy and excitement''.

A second study by the Macfarlane Burnet Centre for Medical Research found that prostitutes' clients had an average age of 42 and about half were married or in a defacto relationship.

About 40 per cent had tertiary qualifications and half earned less than $60,000 a year.

Eight per cent of the more than 300 respondents saw prostitutes once a week or more.

About 60 per cent were also having sex with a regular female partner as well as sex workers.

A third of those surveyed said they used prostitutes because they wanted ``good sex''. others liked the convenience of sex without commitment (20 per cent), the companionship (15 per cent) or to relieve their sexual frustration (13 per cent)