Wednesday, January 10, 2007
Lubrication is sometimes used during masturbation, especially when penetration is involved, but this is by no means universal and many women find their natural lubrication sufficient — some even produce more lubricant alone than with a partner, though the reasons for this seem to be primarily psychological.
Common positions include lying on back or face down, sitting, squatting, or even standing. While sitting in a bath a female may use a tap which thrusts water out at a high pressure aimed at the clitoris to provide an extremely pleasureable experience. Lying face down, one may straddle a pillow, the corner or edge of the bed, a partner's leg or some scrunched-up clothing and "hump" the vulva and clitoris against it. Standing up, the corner of an item of furniture, or even a washing machine, can be used to stimulate the clitoris through the labia and clothing. Havelock Ellis reported that turn-of-the-century seamstresses using treadle-operated sewing machines could achieve orgasm by sitting near the edge of their chairs.
Some can reach orgasm merely by crossing their legs tightly and clenching the muscles in their legs, which creates pressure on the genitals. This can potentially be done in public without observers noticing. Some prefer to use only pressure, applied to the clitoris without direct contact, for example by pressing the palm or ball of the hand against underwear or other clothing.
A few women can orgasm spontaneously, after experiencing prior sexual arousal, due to intellectual stimulation alone, for instance listening to certain pieces of music. Often, these mental triggers have associations with previous instances of arousal and orgasm. Some women even claim to be able to orgasm spontaneously by force of will alone, but that ability, if it exists at all, may not strictly qualify as masturbation as no physical stimulus is involved. Sex therapists will sometimes recommend that female patients take time to masturbate to orgasm, especially if they have not done so before.
Tuesday, January 9, 2007
The most common male masturbation technique is simply to hold the penis with a loose fist and then to move the hand up and down the shaft until orgasm and ejaculation take place. The speed of the hand motion will vary from male to male, although it is not uncommon for the speed to increase as ejaculation nears and for it to decrease during the ejaculation itself. When uncircumcised, stimulation of the penis in this way comes from the "pumping" of the foreskin. This gliding motion of the foreskin reduces friction. When circumcised, there is more direct contact between the hand and the glans, thus a personal lubricant is sometimes used to reduce friction.
Circumcised or not, men may rub or massage the glans, the rim of the glans, and the frenular delta.
Another technique is to place just the index finger and thumb around the penis about halfway along the shaft and move the skin up and down. A variation on this is to place the fingers and thumb on the penis as if playing a flute, and then shuttle them back and forth. A less common technique is to lie face down on a comfortable surface such as a mattress or pillow and rub the penis against it until orgasm is achieved. This technique may include the use of a simulacrum, or artificial vagina.
There are many other variations on male masturbation techniques. Some men place both hands directly on their penis during masturbation, while others use their free hand to fondle their testicles, nipples, or other parts of their body. Some may keep their hand stationary while pumping into it with pelvic thrusts in order to simulate the motions of sexual intercourse. Others may also use vibrators and other sexual devices more commonly associated with female masturbation. A few extremely flexible males can reach and stimulate their penis with their tongue or lips, and so perform autofellatio.
The prostate gland is one of the organs that contributes fluid to semen. As the prostate is touch-sensitive, some directly stimulate it using a well-lubricated finger or dildo inserted through the anus into the rectum. Stimulating the prostate from outside, via pressure on the perineum, can be pleasurable as well.
Ejaculation of semen is sometimes controlled by wearing a condom or by ejaculating onto a tissue or some other item. Depending on an individual male's ability to project his semen over a distance during ejaculation--some males on rare occasions have been known to ejaculate up to three meters (about ten feet), although most males rarely ejaculate much farther than a fraction of that distance--may also influence a male's behavior at ejaculation.
A somewhat controversial ejaculation control technique is to put pressure on the perineum, about halfway between the scrotum and the anus, just before ejaculating. This can, however, redirect semen into the bladder (referred to as retrograde ejaculation). If repeated on a regular basis, this technique could cause long term damage due to the pressure put on the nerves and blood vessels in the perineum. A dry orgasm is one that is reached while withholding ejaculation (or where retrograde ejaculation has taken place). Proponents of dry orgasm say that this is a learnable skill that can shorten the refractory period.
It is also possible for a man to have anal sex with himself; see autocoitus.
Tuesday, November 21, 2006
But this contradicting views have a dual impact in our life. It keeps it shrouded in ignorance and the implication is that since we are not talking about it, I feel like i am being ignored by my wife.
What about the rules in our society?
- You have to be married.
- You have to be heterosexual.
- Other prohibitions include no sex with animals, no incest, no lust for people other than your spouse,
- and no porn, rape or prostitution.
- And you can’t have sex during a woman’s menstrual period.
But, to men, there is no particular health reason to avoid sex during his normal life . It is hard to understand women's view about sex. The more you do for your wife to show you love her, she may turns away from you and takes it for granted.
Do women will start to believe in mystic things after 35 ? When I initiate for some sexual acts, she says "Oh, no. None of that nonsense. We have kids now." In fact, my wife doesn't allow me to have sex with her for the past 9 months! Now, I am convinced that women just don't like to have sex after 35 years (She is 38) .
Here's another fact for you if you're interested in the subject: the highest points of martial satisfaction are: 1) after the kids leave and 2) before the kids were born. Look it up, it's true.
- Drop your inhibitions at the door of your own house.
- Bring on masturbation. Watch Porn movies.
- Visit as much as Adult web sites.
- Wife away on business? Have phone sex.
- Congratulations, you've just joined the "Sexless Marriage Club"
Cheating your wife can be a bad new . Okay, Agreed.He adds : What do the moral books have to offer to a "Husband who is thirsty for sex" ?
My friend says that he used to pay a lot for sex, like the whole of his salary.
Then he got a divorce and now he feel sex is easy, fun and free!
Damn! Do anyone hardly believing in it?
Or do someone like to think about gospels when they are in need of Sex?
Well, I would rather opt for "Heavenly Sex!"
What about you?
Monday, November 6, 2006
- If you're totally turned on, but not sure I am, let your man know you're ready for sex by taking his hand and leading him into the bedroom without a word.
- Wear a thin silk shirt with no bra so that your nipples stand at attention, then rub your chest against him.
- Help him button his shirt or adjust his tie in the mirror. When you dress him, He just want to get undressed again.
- He love when you are cuddling next to him, completely nude, and I feel the softness of your pubic hair on his hip.
- Licking behind his ears is a nice addition to traditional ear kissing.
- If he is sitting in a chair and zoning out, come on over and straddle him. Your body in his lap will perk him right up.
- Have him close his eyes and trace the outline of his lips with your finger.
- He love when a girl gives him that "God-I-want-you gaze," especially if she shifts her eyes downward after a few seconds, then glances back up one more time.
- Press and rub the back of his neck. Then run your hands around his shoulders and across his chest. It's as if he is being enveloped by you.
Friday, November 3, 2006
Actually it was 9 years ago the day I got married. Sex then was four to five times a week. But as soon as we passed the six month mark after our wedding, she stopped being interested
Now I have a Eight years old daughter and a Two year old one. Both of them sleeps in my bed with my wife more nights a week than I do. Sex now maybe once in 11 months. Triple that for vacation sex. I am Forty two, not happy, and slowly methodically plotting my way out. I always love the look in the eyes of my friends who say that won't happen to them.
Now, my wife reads in the kitchen until I fall asleep to avoid having sex with me, or if I am not tired, she waits until I am in the shower and then gets into bed and goes to sleep.
Sunday, October 22, 2006
Here is a typical married woman:
I give birth to your kids and you complain we don't have sex? How do you think they were born, osmosis? Who takes care of them, drives them to school, picks them up for after school activities, drives them to sports, takes them to their friends houses, plays chauffeur, cleans, cooks, goes to PTA meetings and then caters to your sorry whiney ass when you get home. To top it off after you eat, fart or burp you walk out the door and go out with your buddies.You want sex?
Go fuck yourself! I'm too tired.
Saturday, October 21, 2006
- Learn the steps of emotion that you need to trigger in a women.
Become comfortable around married women.
- Find out the main reason why you get nervous around women and how to solve the problem.
Learning to read her body language.
- Vital signs that you must watch out for in a woman's body language.
Chatting up married women is a step-by-step process.
- The easy way to get her involved in the conversation.
Why married women always want to be your friend and not your girlfriend.
- Why sending out lots of mixed signals works and how to do it.
Approaching attractive married women in any situation.
- Extremely simple using these easy-to-follow how to steps.
Main factors in being successful at dating is confidence
- How to notice the different types of dating personalities.
Breaking down that barrier.
- Tips to help you take down her emotional barrier and on how to help you to be yourself.
Building conversations with married women.
- How to know when she is interested in you & knowing the right time to make your move.
Getting her to tell you as much about herself as possible.
- Making your reply take the interest she has in you and building on it
Keeping her interested
- Learn the techniques on how to keep married women intrigued and interested in every word you say.